The French tend to be pretty strict when it comes to table manners. Of course, we are talking here about slightly more formal gatherings (like a dinner party, at a restaurant…). If you are having pizza with your buddies or a picnic, many of these won’t apply ;-)
Questionable French Table Manners Are…
- To start drinking before everybody has a full glass in front of them (and someone has a chance to make a toast).
- To keep your hands under the table.
- If you are a man, to serve yourself before offering the food to the woman sitting next to you.
- If you are a woman and there are men at the table, to pour yourself some wine. (So if you are sitting next to me, you better watch my wine glass: it’s a full-time job!)
- To eat with your mouth open or make a lot of noise when eating. No slurping allowed either. Absolutely no burping.
- To push your food around with your knife in a picky way, and only eat some morsels.
- To spread pâté or cheese on a big piece of bread as if you were making a sandwich.
- To mop up the sauce with bread (certainly not holding the bread with your finger. You are not even supposed to do it holding a piece of bread with your fork… don’t tell anyone but I do it all the time, especially with Olivier’s boeuf bourguignon !!)
- To touch your food with your fingers, in particular cheese. (More about cheese and French etiquette)
- To empty your glass in one gulp or finish your plate in 2 seconds.
- To say you don’t like it…
- To put your elbows on the table and rest your face in your hands.
- To not sit straight.
- To lick your knife or your fork.
- To make food spots around you.
- To pick your teeth at the table.
- To ask “où sont les toilettes ?” (where is the restroom in French) while at the table.
- To speak loudly in a restaurant, or burst out laughing.
- To call the waiter by snapping your fingers.
Good French Table Manners
Of course, everything that is not the above is already considered polite at the French table – but let’s see what will really get you some perfect host points.
- To pull a woman’s chair to help her to sit if you are a man.
- To wait to sit down until the hostess does, and to stand up when she gets up (although it’s really old-fashioned, and kind of a pain for the hostess if you ask me…)
- To comment positively and with wit on the smell and look of the food, on how pretty the table looks.
- To offer a toast to the hostess (if the occasion is not too formal).
- To delicately wipe your lips before and after each sip, without leaving any food or lipstick marks on the napkin.
- To use only your fork to eat salad, eggs, pastas, pâtés or foie gras, very tender meat or pastry.
- To know how to peel a peach or a shrimp with your fork and knife.
- To send flowers and a thank you note the day after the dinner.
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Some French table manners may be the same as in your home country, but I’m sure some will differ as well: do leave a comment and explain what differs in France from your home country! I love to read comments.